This year, right now, and plans going forward into 2013.

written by Rachel Lamb
11 · 27 · 12

Hello everyone. I thought the time was right for some information about what’s happening here at the head quarters of Rachel Lamb Bridal Design. This is likely to be of special interest to potential bridal clients and will help explain my recent erratic, cryptic or (rarely, but sorry if it occurred) nil responses to enquiries.

I’ll do my best not to rant, but I can’t promise.

If you have read this blog this year, you may know that I am an adopter in waiting; I’m approved but not had a child placed yet. This year has been very difficult work and adoption wise because of the way Social Services work, combined with the common misunderstanding that things are somehow easier planning and timings wise, if one is self employed. E.g. I can just stop work at the drop of a hat. This isn’t so when I work to immovable deadlines with huge lead-times, or, as has already happened once this year, worked 70 hour weeks and cleared my diary of work to go on adoption leave, only to have the adoption not take place. Sadly, I cannot then ‘just go back to work’. The work has to be generated.

This has been tough. We (my husband and I) have been ‘in the system’ now for nearly 5 years, and for myself, trying to keep work up and running while at the same time, not knowing when the phone is going to ring to tell me that I might need to stop for a bit, is very difficult. I’ve turned away people when I needn’t have done so, I have ceased training for things I could be qualified in by now, had I just continued.

This is how it has been for us as potential adopters. It is the way it is. I realise there is a lot of media stuff going on about adoption at present. I’m not going to go there in this post.

Anyway, the point of this post is to give some info on what my position is work wise, right now, and going forward.

We have an adoption ‘lead’. I can’t say more than that. I’ve learned too late and to my cost, not to say too much, as one can go right to the brink and then have it fall through. In order to accommodate the uncertainty of this ‘lead’ and the work involved in having to prove that we can be parents (again), I have decided not to take on any more work for spring 2013 weddings. So what that means is, if you are getting married from next September 2013 onward and are interested in my service, please do get in touch. If your wedding date is any time from now to next August, then it’s likely I won’t be able to help you. I’m sorry. I hate to turn work away, but this uncertainty is what we’ve been dealing with for years now, and I can’t change it. The only way I can change it is to withdraw from the adoption process, and we aren’t ready to do that, yet. This doesn’t apply to you if are already booked in with me for a wedding date prior to next Autumn – don’t panic ladies – we’ve already discussed this.

So, in an ideal world, I will adopt, take some months off on leave, and then be back working again. (Like a ‘normal’ person!) I won’t be giving up my business – I have worked SO hard starting it, building it up and keeping it going over the years. It is a labour of love, and I love my job and working with my clients. We will be adopting a school age child, so there won’t be years of time off, it’s just going to be a few months.

If it goes ahead.

So. A final recap: At present (27 Nov 2012), please contact me if your wedding date is from Sept 2013 onwards. If your wedding date is before this, by all means make contact, but I can’t be certain if I can help – I will discuss this with you.

Which brings me on to my next point. I know I’m a pain to get hold of. PLEASE leave me a message if you make an enquiry by phone. I will answer if I can, but if I can’t I am either contorted underneath a dress, threading invisible sequins onto a garment, in a fitting, a meeting or not about. The best way to enquire is to email me, then I can get back to you when I am free, which is usually towards the end of the day.

So, I hope that makes sense, and that this goes some way towards explaining the situation at present. As a confirmed control freak, I can tell you, it isn’t easy to live and work this way, but one thing it has taught me is that I can wait; I can deal with uncertainty – in some things, and I can be flexible – in some things.

I’m not going to post any more this year, the rest of the year will be spent getting as much practical dress work done for existing brides, in anticipation of something happening soon. Should circumstances change and I become available again next spring, I will post on here to let you know.

Happy Christmas to you all, I’ll start posting again in the New Year 🙂 xxx

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